What I Learned in College

by | May 7, 2014 | Thoughts

The only thing standing between me and the conclusion of my first year in college is my Bio final tomorrow. Yet, instead of studying like the studious freshman I am suppose to be, I sit in bed listening to my neighbor climb down his second story balcony drunk while simultaneously replaying the highlights from this past year, like: adopting a puppy, my Halloween costume, moving into my own apartment, Paris Hilton’s birthday at LIV, my first time at a Gay club, Artwalk, the Miley Cyrus concert, random Afrojack pool party, and many more personal memories shared with friends. I have also learned a lot, like: avoid the water during the fall because it is jellyfish season, assert yourself to a cab driver initially so they don’t take advantage of you… also they will accept credit cards if you make them, when not to drive to avoid traffic, how to get to South Beach in under 15 minutes, how to spend $7 on dinner but $400 on drinks in one night, how to bullshit a six page paper and get an A, and how to piss off a group of people with just a few words. Each has presented a learning opportunity for me to grow. I can honestly say that I am not the same person who moved into apt C202 last July, for better and a little bit for worse.

One thing that I have learned and believe important enough to share is that friendships in college are not forged on one’s ability to stay current on the latest uniform infraction trends, rather your individuality. Self-expression is not only encouraged in college but it is the standard. If you choose not to live by it, then you will be ostracized by everyone, where as if you choose to be yourself you will only be ostracized by a few. Honestly, being accepted by everyone is so overrated and takes too much effort, more than it is actually worth. With papers to write, exams to study for, and a social life to live, no one has the time or energy for that bullshit anyway. When you are yourself, you will find your place amongst the right people. Personally, I have yet to find my own. I have met and moved on from so many people this past year, and so many have done the same to me. It’s apart of the college experience. The secret is to accept that being a good friend sometimes requires you to let someone go. I cannot tell you how many times I have thought I was going to hit it off with someone and then something happens where it just doesn’t work out, no matter how badly I wanted it too. It is in those instances that I learned to accept the situation and move on. I do not harbor negativity towards those individuals at all, in fact I wish them nothing but the best, because you never know if you will cross paths with them again. I have always taken issue with the phrase, “There is no better time than the present.” Sometimes something good requires time to incubate, after all good things come to those who wait.

I am almost positive this entry made 0 sense, after re-reading it I basically just talked in circles. However, that is exactly how my mind works. Now I really should get back to studying… ok start to study.