Legal Marriage vs Religious Marriage

by | Jul 2, 2015 | Thoughts

I usually try to stay away from polarized topics that are based in personal beliefs, but I feel that I am in a unique position and therefore I am compelled to share. It is important to note that I am gay and raised Christian. I have attended Catholic school and have a close relationship with my God. Honestly, it’s never been difficult for me to embrace both my identity and my religion because of the support I have received and the understanding I have of my faith. With the recent controversy of the U.S. Supreme Courts’ ruling on same-sex marriage, I feel that there is a lot of confusion expressed on both sides of the debate. Hopefully, I will be able to clear up the matter for everyone.

As a spiritual follower of Christ, I understand that the sacrament of marriage is conditional and only occurs for the purpose of procreation. Obviously same-sex couples can not procreate, so it is impossible to have said intent. However, the same goes for heterosexual couples, if they do not have intentions to procreate then the sacrament of marriage does not take place, meaning God does not recognize them as married. Originally, marriage was only supposed to be between a man, a woman and God. As time progressed, law became intertwined with matrimony, granting partners certain benefits and binding them to certain conditions. Despite the shared named, the two forms are completely different one happens in the eyes of God and the other happens in the eyes of the law. A heterosexual Christian couple who plan to procreate will be married legally and will also share in the sacrament of marriage with God. Such couple will enjoy both variations of marriage. Any couple who does not plan to procreate, including a same-sex couple, will only be married legally and will not share in the sacrament.

It’s important to understand the differences of the two forms of marriage. The law passed does not impede on the sacrament of marriage, but only affects legal marriage. It gives the opportunity to everyone to share the same responsibilities and benefits as everyone else that are granted under the provisions of the law. The ruling today in no way takes away your right to your opinion nor does it impose a definitive ground to say that your opinion is wrong and anyone else’ is right. Like I said, these two definitions are completely different, and unfortunately, they are often confused for one. As a gay Christian myself, I can understand the dilemma one might have to support equality but also to stick to your own beliefs. For me, understanding the separation between the two has really helped me on my journey of self-acceptance and devotion to God. Hopefully, this helps you on your journey and to understand the opposition of your belief.

Whether you are religious or not, we all have dignity and we are all born equally. It is our job as a society to ensure that we all are treated equal after birth, and with this ruling, we advance together towards this common goal.